On August 12, 2016, we had to say goodbye to our son Michael. My husband stood up in front of everyone there at his gravesite, with me by his side, and read the following. He spent considerable time writing it, agonizing over every word. Every once in a while he would hand me the laptop, asking me to read through it and give him my opinion. Every time I did, I was blown away, and I told him that. This man, even in our overwhelming grief, was thinking of others. Please read it, and share it out to the world.
Dear John, I love you. ❤
First, I want to thank everyone who has helped support our family with your heartfelt sorrow, and sadness with their thoughts and happy memories of which all meant so much to us.
I, as Michael’s father would like to share a few words to you from my heart. I may have a hard time speaking these words I am about to say, so please forgive me.
Michael, or to some of you “Mike” was a smart, caring, funny, sensitive , strong and lovable young man who had a sense of adventure. I am hopeful that I had played a part in that and passed on to him those so endearing qualities you look for in a man. He has always cared for others and was there for them when they needed him the most and his friends and family were also there for him. I am so, so proud to call him my son and see the man he had become and through that he has made me a better father and a better man for the time he spent here on Earth.
Over the years, I have spoken with many people and some have said things that “stick in your head” or remember , and others you just “brush off”, and forget. I have said to people that we all here on this Earth for a purpose. Some people may agree and some may not and it really didn’t have any effect on me until recently, and so I was inspired to write these words to all of you.
Please, take a look around you ……., to the left of you……, to the right of you……., in front and in back of you……. and all who are here and have gathered these past few days in my sons memory. Michael, my son, has had an influence and purpose for being here on this earth with all of you. He has touched every life here, no matter how small or who you are, family, friend, co-worker or from someone you may know. Without him, we may never have known each other in some point in our lives. So I say to all of you, my son had a purpose in life and we all have a purpose for being here. We cannot change the past, or the present but we all can have some effect on the future.
My son Michael, has departed this life, so in his memory, please listen, listen carefully and closely to others you know, always offer your help to others, even if they do not want to accept it, so others may get the help they need so they do not have to suffer in silence.